UCharles Darwin wake wakholelwa ukuthi akukhona nje ukuthi abantu babe nobuhlobo obuqondile nezinye izilwane, kodwa laba babuye babe nempilo yezenhlalo, yengqondo neyokuziphatha. Kamuva, encwadini yakhe Ukwehla Komuntu, wabhala: “Awukho umehluko oyisisekelo phakathi komuntu nezilwane ezincelisayo eziphakeme emandleni azo engqondo.” Lokhu kuyababa kodwa kuyiqiniso, ngisho nakulo mhlaba wanamuhla; ikakhulukazi uma amagama athi 'psychopath' kanye 'sociopath' aqanjwa ngaphambi kwesintu.
I-psychopath inesithombe somuntu obandayo, ongenanhliziyo, ongenabuntu. Yize abantu besebenzisa amagama athi "psychopath" kanye "sociopath" ngokufana, kukhona umehluko othile oyisisekelo.
I-psychopath umuntu othola ukuphazamiseka ngenxa yokuthambekela kofuzo. Abakwazi ukuzwa uzwela noma babe yingxenye yobudlelwano bothando, abananembeza futhi abakwazi ukuzizwa benecala. Kepha zihle kakhulu ekuqondeni nasekulingiseni imizwa yabantu. Uma i-psychopath izokwenza ubugebengu, izonemba kakhulu bese uyihlela ngokucophelela. Ngenkathi i-sociopath ibonisa ukungaziphathi kahle ngenxa yezimo zemvelo. Bangakha ubudlelwano obujwayelekile futhi babe nabangane abaseduze. Izenzo zabo ngokuvamile azihlelwanga futhi zishiya imikhondo eminingi.
Namuhla sizokutshela ngezibonakaliso zokuqala eziyi-10 (noma, izimpawu) ze-psychopathy enganeni nakubantu abadala ezingase zelashwe ngemizamo ethile emincane emihle. Kusukela kubabulali bama-serial kuya kuzigebengu ze-inthanethi, wonke umuntu omubi wayeziphatha ngale ndlela ebusheni bakhe futhi, ngeshwa, akekho owakuqaphela ngesikhathi. Ngakho-ke wonke umuntu kufanele azi mayelana nalawa maqiniso ayishumi abalulekile angokwengqondo azobasiza ngempela ukuthi balinganisele ikhwalithi yabo yempilo futhi bagcine isimo esihle sengqondo:
1 | Isihluku sezilwane
Isihluku sesilwane kulapho umuntu elimaza isilwane noma engasinakekeli isilwane ngokuzibophezela, njengokunganiki inja noma ikati ukudla namanzi. Kuphambene nomthetho ukuba nesihluku noma ukulimaza izilwane, ngisho nezilwane ezifuyiwe. Kubizwa nangokuthi ukuhlukunyezwa kwezilwane, noma ukunganakwa. Ukuxhumana phakathi kokuhlukunyezwa kwezilwane kanye ne-psychopathy kusobala kakhulu ukuthi i-FBI e-US ize yaqala nokuqopha amacala okuhlukunyezwa kwezilwane emibikweni yawo yaminyaka yonke yobugebengu.
Kuwo wonke umlando abantu bakholelwa ukuthi banelungelo abalinikwe nguNkulunkulu lokuphatha ngesihluku izilwane ezingezona ezomuntu kepha abanye abantu babekhathazekile, ngokwesibonelo, uLeonardo da Vinci wake wathenga izinyoni ezivalelwe amakhokho ukuze azikhulule. Ubuye waveza intukuthelo ngaphakathi ezincwadini zakhe zokubhalela ukuthi abantu basebenzisa amandla namandla abo ukufuya izilwane ukuze zihlatshwe.
Ungazikhohlisi ngokwakho ukuthi kunendlela “enobuntu” yokubulala umuntu ophilayo. ―Kat Von D
Empeleni, iningi lomhlaba manje selihilelekile kulezi zenzo ezinyantisayo, kungaba ngqo noma ngokungaqondile. Sibulala futhi sidle izilwane ezingaphezu kwezigidi eziyizinkulungwane ezingama-58 ngonyaka emhlabeni wonke, kungabalwa izinhlanzi. Kufakazelwe ukuthi konke ukusetshenziswa kabi kwezilwane kuqala ngokudla inyama. Isibonelo, uma ungadla isilwane, ungasilinga bese usibulala ngama-aphrodisiacs, amaqoqo odonga lwamagumbi okuhlala nobucwebe. Futhi asikho isimilo sokukhetha, sithi izinja namakati akufanele abulawe kodwa izingulube nezimbuzi kufanele zibulawe.
Akudingeki ukuthi sidle ukudla kwezilwane ukuze sibe nempilo nhlobo. Sidla izilwane ngoba zinambitheka kamnandi. Ngisho nezinhlangano ezijwayelekile zobungcweti kanye nezinhlangano ezilawula uhulumeni ziyakubona lokho.
Kodwa-ke, ukungabi imifino akuyona uphawu lwe-psychopath noma enye inkinga enjalo yengqondo, ngakho-ke ungethuki uma ukhona. Lapha sibeke lesi sihloko ngenhloso yokuqwashisa okujwayelekile kuphela.
2 | Uthando Lokushiswa
Ukushiswa yicala lokushisa ngomlilo noma ngenhloso impahla noma ngenhloso. Yize lesi senzo sihilela izakhiwo uqobo, igama elithi ukushisa ngomlilo lingabhekisa nasekushisweni ngamabomu kwezinye izinto, njengezimoto, izindiza zamanzi, noma amahlathi. Laba bantu futhi kuhloswe ukuthi bonakalise izinto ezibalulekile zanoma yimuphi omunye umuntu ngaphandle kwezizathu ezanele. Eqinisweni, ungabubona ubuso babo obunonya ngokusobala kunoma yiziphi iziyaluyalu noma kwesinye isixuku esonakalisayo. Le mfanelo engokwengqondo ithathwa njengesibonakaliso sokuqala esibucayi se-sociopath.
3 | Umlando We-Enuresis
I-Enuresis noma ukulahleka ebusuku kokulawulwa kwesinye, noma ukwazi nje ukuthi ukumanzisa embhedeni ukwehluleka okuphindiwe ukulawula ukuchama. Ukwehliswa embhedeni kungenzeka kuze kube yiminyaka engu-5 njengengxenye yokukhula okujwayelekile kwengane. Lesi sifo sivame ukudala izenzo zokushiswa, ukuxhashazwa kwezilwane, nezinye izinto eziningi ngoba lesi simo silulaza ingane. Ngenxa yalokho, bayathukuthela futhi bacasuke. Uma abazali bengasabeli kahle ngeqiniso lokuthi ingane yabo iba nalezi zingozi noma uma abangane bengane bebagcona, lokhu kungabenza baphenduke ngendlela engafanele. Kunamacala angenakubalwa wengane enjalo ye-psychopathic enomlando we-Enuresis.
4 | Ukuntuleka Kokuziphatha Nokuphulwa Kwemithetho
Abantu abaningi banomuzwa oyisisekelo wokulungile nokungalungile. Ngokuvamile, singavuma ukuthi umusa ulungile, futhi unya alulungile; ubudlelwano obunempilo bulungile, futhi ubudlelwano obunobuthi abulungile; ukusebenza kanzima ngokuthembeka kulungile, futhi ukweba nokukhohlisa akulungile. Ama-Sociopaths nama-psychopaths, noma kunjalo, abanamqondo wokuziphatha okuhle noma abanalo nhlobo.
Imithetho yenzelwe ukuthi yephulwe; unqoba kanjalo.
Abantu abaningi baphila, okwenza lo mugqa ube yisimiso sokuqala sempilo yabo. Ngale ndlela, kancane kancane bahileleka emisebenzini ehlukahlukene elwa nomphakathi.
5 | Ukuqamba Amanga Ngezifo Nokukhohlisa
Uma uphinda amanga kaningi ngokwanele, amukelwa njengeqiniso.
Ukuqamba amanga kuyindlela yokuziphatha yokuqamba amanga okujwayelekile noma okuphoqelelayo. Umqambimanga ukhohlisa abanye ngezigameko ezingezona ezibhalwe ngaphambilini ezijwayele ukubethula kahle. “Bahlobisa umuntu wabo” ngokuxoxa izindaba ezibabeka njengeqhawe noma isisulu. Esinye sezibonakaliso ezivame kakhulu ezitholakala enganeni ye-psychopathic.
Ezimweni eziningi, bavame ukubandakanyeka ekudlaleni kwe-Victim, okwaziwa nangokuthi ukuzilimaza. Ngukuqamba kokuhlukunyezwa ngezizathu ezahlukahlukene njengokucacisa ukuhlukunyezwa kwabanye, ukuphatha abanye, isu lokubhekana noma ukufuna ukunakwa. Abaningi bacabanga ukuthi, abesifazane banamathuba amaningi okubandakanyeka kulezi zenzo, kepha ngokwama-akhawunti, abesilisa nabesifazane, bobabili bahloselwe ukwenza lezi zenzo ngezindlela zabo.
6 | Ukukhanyisa igesi noma ukuxhashazwa kwengqondo
Uma othile ehlala ekubukela phansi, akushiye uzizwa sengathi akukho lutho ongakwenza kahle, noma akwenze uzizwe ungelutho futhi uziphethe kabi ngawe uwonke… ukuhlukunyezwa ngokomzwelo.
Ukukhanyisa ngegesi kuyindlela yokukhohlisa ngokwengqondo efuna ukutshala imbewu yokungabaza kumuntu ohlosiwe noma kumalungu eqembu elihlosiwe, okubenza bazibuze inkumbulo yabo, ukuqonda kwabo, nokuhlanzeka kwengqondo. Sisebenza njengenqubo yokugeza ubuchopho. Kusetshenziswa ukuphika okuphikelelayo, ukuqondisa izinto ngendlela engeyiyo, ukuphikisana nokuqamba amanga, izama ukusimaza isisulu nokunikezela inkolelo yalowo ohlukunyezwayo, futhi ekugcineni balahlekelwe ngumqondo wabo wokubona, ubunikazi nokuzethemba.
7 | Ukungazweli
I-Sociopathy, empeleni, iyabanda kakhulu. —UMartha Stout
Ukungazweli kukhombisa ukungabi naluzwela nenhliziyo ebandayo. Umuntu 'onenhliziyo ebandayo' uvame ukuzama ukulawula abantu ababazungezile ngokubakhohlisa. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi imvamisa bantula uzwela kwabanye abantu. Isibonakaliso esiyisisekelo sanoma iyiphi i-sociopath noma i-psychopath ukuthi abanalo uzwela, izimiso zokuziphatha, kanye nokubonisa.
Ngokusho kwabanye ososayensi bezengqondo, abantu ababuka ama-movie asabisayo ukuze bazijabulise futhi balale kahle ngemuva kwalokho bangaba yi-psychopaths. Banengqondo futhi bazolile uma kukhulunywa ngodlame noma usizi olufana nokufa, izingozi noma eminye imicimbi ye-macabre, bacabanga futhi benze nalokho okuthiwa yigazi elibandayo. Ngenkathi enye inkolelo idlulisa ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi banokubekezelelana okuphezulu kwengqondo nobunzima bomzimba, ngakho-ke, banokuthambekela okuncane ekubhekaneni nosizi nokubona okubi kakhulu emvelweni yomuntu kwenzeka, kubenze babe namandla ngaphakathi ngaphakathi ezimweni ezimbi kangaka.
8 | I-Narcissism Kanye Ne-Superiority Complex Complex
I-narcissism, ngomqondo wokufanisa, ingxenye eyodwa yalokho okuyisociopathy okuyikho. —UMartha Stout
Kungumkhuba wokucabanga kakhulu ngawe uqobo nokungabi nandaba nabanye. Umuntu othanda izihibe unobugovu, uyize futhi uyisiminzi sokunakwa. Bangase baqambe amanga ngaphandle kokuzisola, futhi bakhohlise, kepha ngeke bakuvume obala lokhu. Kungenzeka basole omunye umuntu bese bethi lowo muntu ngandlela thile ubenze baqamba amanga. Kepha kukhona ububanzi. Kungenxa yokuthi unezici ezithile ezingasho ukuthi awuphilile engqondweni.
Ochwepheshe bangakusho lapho lezo zimfanelo ziqala ukulimaza ubudlelwano bakho futhi zihlanekezele ukuzethemba kwakho. I-narcissism eyedlulele ingadlulela ekuguleni kwengqondo okubizwa nge-narcissistic personality disorder. Impilo yakho igxile esidingweni sakho sokwamukelwa. Awuqondi noma awunandaba nemizwa yabanye. Uqinisekile ukuthi ubalulekile, futhi udinga abanye ukuthi bakuvume.
9 | Ubuntu Obuzimele
Abantu abathembeke kakhulu kule planethi imvamisa yibo abagcwele ngokwabo.
Umuntu ozicabangela yena ukhathalela ngokweqile izidingo zakhe nezakhe, njengomuntu onobugovu. Laba bantu bavame ukungazinaki izidingo zabanye futhi babenzele okuhle kuphela. Kepha ababona abakwaNarcissist njengoba bengaqambi amanga futhi bayazwelana. Abathandi ukugxambukela empilweni yabanye futhi abavumeli abanye baphazamise ezabo izimpilo nganoma iyiphi indlela. Yize bengeyona ingozi kunoma ngubani, baba bodwa empilweni yomphakathi, engathinta injabulo yabo.
10 | Imizwelo Engaphansi Nezingane
Abazali abanobuthi badala ukungezwani phakathi kwezingane zabo. Kungani? Konke kumayelana nokulawula.
Ngokusho kongoti bengqondo, iningi lama-narcisists libona izingane zabo njengempahla kunabantu. Kuyaqondwa kwisayensi ukuthi ama-psychopaths awakwazi uthando olungatholwa yi-neurotypicals. Izintambo zabo zamakhemikhali ezihlukene ezindaweni ezifana ne-prefrontal lobe ebuchosheni zivele zenze bangakwazi ukukuzwa. Nokho, basengakwazi ukunakekela izingane zabo kahle kakhulu futhi babonakale njengomkhaya ovamile ngaphandle. Uma bewubona njengomsebenzi okufanele bachithelwe kuwo, bazosebenza kanzima kuwo kunabantu abaningi.
Ngenkathi, ezenhlalo zivala imizwa ethile ngenxa yokuhlukumezeka kwengane kanye nezici zofuzo. Abanye kungenzeka basazithanda izingane zabo, abanye kungenzeka bangakwazi, abanye basengazizwa nje kancane ukuthi bayabona ukuthi kunemizwelo egeleza kuzo.
Imithombo Yezindaba:
Psychology namuhla, I-Quora, Isikhathi se-NewYork, Ngakolunye uhlangothi, Futhi Wikipedia
